Why Dark Triad Men Are So Seductive To Women (Even Innocent Ones)

Women are attracted to evil men.

Now, what do I mean by that?

Scientific research has found that the Dark Triad of personality traits is something women find sexually desirable. When given the choice between a man who has these traits and a man who does not, women often prefer the man who has them.

That sounds strange because these are negative traits. Why would a woman want to be with a man who might manipulate her, take advantage of her, or think he is more important than everyone else?

There is a simple answer. The Dark Triad traits are correlated with dominance. Women are not attracted to evil men because they are evil. They are attracted to the power, status, and aggression that evil men often display.

The Dark Triad includes narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy.

Machiavellianism means that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want. You have no problem taking advantage of other people if it serves your own purposes. If you tell a woman you love her because you know she wants commitment, even though you only want sex, that is Machiavellian.

Narcissism means that you fantasize about power, status, and money. You are obsessed with gaining those things. It also means that you have delusions of grandeur. You think you are more important and more powerful than you actually are.

Psychopathy means that you lack empathy. If you hurt someone else, you do not feel guilty about it. You can steal from people, take advantage of them, and remain completely comfortable with yourself.

None of these traits are good. But they do create a man who is aggressive, unafraid, and willing to act. That is where the attraction comes from.

Biologically, what are women attracted to more than anything else? Status.

For hundreds of thousands of years, the clearest indication that a man had status was dominance. Our biology has not changed much in that amount of time. Evolution is slow. The mechanisms of attraction that exist in women's brains are still influenced by the same old signals of power, confidence, and control.

You can reject evolutionary psychology if you want. Look at modern women instead. Romance novels are some of the most popular books in the world. They are mostly written by women and made for women. In almost every romance novel, the male protagonist is dominant. He is confident, aggressive, and sometimes controlling.

Women are not necessarily attracted to the man who is evil. They are attracted to the man who has power, status, and dominance. The problem is that evil men often have those traits, while good men often suppress them.

You do not have to be Machiavellian. You do not have to be narcissistic. You do not have to be a psychopath.

You can be dominant and still be empathetic. You can make a bold move, hold strong eye contact, and make your intentions clear without lying to a woman or taking advantage of her.

The problem is that most men are too submissive. They play it safe. They look away first. They avoid making a move because they do not want to offend anyone. They act like a friend when they are actually sexually interested.

That does not make you kind. It makes you unclear. If you are attracted to a woman, she should be able to tell. Otherwise, you create a strange tension that never gets resolved.

You have to be willing to do things that create emotional tension. Hold eye contact with a woman even though it feels uncomfortable. Make the bold move even though she might react negatively. Say what you want instead of waiting for a perfect opening.

Being submissive is being the guy who always looks away first. It is being the guy who never makes a move because he is afraid of being offensive.

Dominance means you move first. You lead the interaction. You say, 'Let's go get a drink,' instead of asking for permission to suggest it. You make your sexual intentions clear instead of hiding them behind fake friendliness.

That gives her the opportunity to accept you or reject you. If she likes it, the tension becomes sexual. If she is uncomfortable, you back off. You show empathy and respect what she wants.

There is a difference between being dominant and being manipulative.

If you tell a woman you love her because you know it will get you sex, that is manipulation. If you lie about your intentions, pressure her after she says no, or take advantage of her trust, that is not dominance. It is weakness disguised as confidence.

Dominance is different. You make your intentions clear. You make the move. You give her the opportunity to accept or reject you. If she reacts negatively, you back off. You do not become pushy. You do not try to talk her out of her boundary.

Dominance can create a win-win situation if a woman is attracted to you. She gets the opportunity to experience sexual excitement, and you get a clear answer. Manipulation does not create that opportunity. It removes her ability to make a real choice.

So yes, women are attracted to evil men. But they are not attracted to evil because it is evil. They are attracted to the dominance, status, confidence, and aggression that evil men often display.

You can be a good person without being submissive. You can be dominant without being evil. Take the good from both sides. Be willing to make the bold move, make your intentions clear, and show empathy when she does not want what you want.